There's an art to introducing yourself, and let's be real, it's sometimes still intimidating even if you're doing it online. Let us help you find the perfect way to say hello. We've created a little haiku to help you remember the basics.
Upbeat, short and sweet
read their profile, you'll shall meet.
Be nice and read twice.
While writing bad poetry is fun, we have a few simple suggestions for creating the right introduction.
Be upbeat and keep it short and sweet.
There’s no need to be too serious! Your first message is to make someone want to click on your profile to check you out. You wouldn't tell a stranger on the street your hamster's middle name in seventh grade, so why do it in your profile?
Hot Tip for your profile: Try posing an open-ended question inviting them to respond back.
Read their profile before writing your message.
Swiped right on Meet Me and it's a mutual match? You already have a foot in the door and you just need to sync the landing. Referring to what you saw in their profile - like their hobbies, pictures, and interests, is a great way to start a conversation and find common ground.
Hot Tip: Try complimenting something on their profile, instead of commenting on their looks.
Be nice and read twice.
We've all been there, either we have sent a weird message or been the recipient of one. Kindness goes a long way. We suggest you leave out the cheesy terms of endearment. These don’t work on anyone. Unique compliments are a great way to catch someone’s attention, but words like “cutie”, “babe”, or “honey” can come across as impersonal or offensive, even if you didn’t intend them to. Reading your message again before you send it helps to prevent the instant regret of sending a message you'll never get back.
Hot Tip: Put yourself in a friend's shoes, if they were about a send a message, but they gave it to you read would you say "go ahead" or delete it on their behalf? You can definitely be your own wing-person when it comes to using common sense.
And Always Remember
Having a great profile is just as important as writing a great message. Other users will look at both before deciding to respond. Make sure your profile is interesting and memorable by checking out these helpful tips on creating a great POF profile!
Meeting new people can bring new opportunities and excitement into your life! Do not hesitate to contact that person you’ve had your eye on. If you put the time and effort into constructing an extraordinary message just for them, they will undoubtedly appreciate it. The perfect message may just be the way you reel in your match!