IRL safety guide

If you’re meeting a new person, it can be exciting but don’t forget to protect yourself. Take a look at our tips below for staying safe!

Don’t be in a Rush

Take your time and get to know the other person before agreeing to meet or chat off the app. Don't be afraid to ask questions to screen for any potential red flags or personal deal breakers. A POF call (available in the messaging part of the app), FaceTime, or Skype video are all great screening tools.

Meet in Public, Stay in Public

Meet for the first few times in a busy, public place—never at your home, your date's home, or other private location. If your date pressures you to go anywhere private, end the date.

Tell Someone About Your Plans

Tell a friend or family member your date plans, including when and where you're going. Have your cell phone charged and close by so you can easily reach out to someone if needed.

Plan Your Transportation

We want you to be in control of how you get to and from your date so you can leave whenever you want. If you're driving yourself, it's a good idea to have a backup plan, like a ride-share app or a friend to pick you up.

Know Your Limits

If you use any drugs or drink alcohol, just proceed with caution. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with. If your date tries to pressure you to do something you don’t want to do, end the date.

Don't Leave Drinks or Personal Items Unattended

Only have drinks poured or served directly from a bartender or server. A lot of substances that are slipped into drinks to facilitate sexual assault are odorless, colorless, and tasteless, so it’s important to have eyes on your drink. Also, keep your phone, purse, wallet, and anything containing personal information close by.

If You Feel Uncomfortable, Leave

No explanation is needed. If you’re not feeling it, it's more than okay to end a date early. Ask a bartender or server for help if things escalate.